10 Things Dads Can Do to Bond with Their Newborn

You might feel unsure or even left out at first, but you can build a strong connection with your newborn in simple ways. Many dads bond through small, daily moments—like holding, talking, or playing.

• Early and consistent involvement helps your baby grow and supports your own mental health.
• Bonding does not always happen overnight. Many dads find it grows with time and patience.

Remember, every cuddle, smile, or shared laugh counts.

Key Takeaways

• Skin to skin contact helps dad and baby feel calm. It also builds trust and makes them feel safe.
• Talking and singing to your newborn helps their brain grow. It also helps you both feel close and connected.
• Babywearing keeps your baby near you. It lets you bond while you do other things.
• Simple routines like diaper changes and bath time help you connect. Reading together also creates special moments.
• Being patient and involved every day is important. Every small moment helps your bond get stronger.

1. Skin to Skin

Getting Started

Skin-to-skin contact is one of the simplest ways to connect with your newborn. You just need to hold your baby against your bare chest.

This can happen right after birth or anytime in the first months. Many dads find this moment calming for both themselves and their baby.

Tip: Make sure you sit or lie down in a comfortable spot. Remove your shirt and place your baby, wearing only a diaper, on your chest. Cover both of you with a soft blanket to keep warm.

Here are some safety tips to keep in mind:

1. Place your baby lengthwise on your chest, tummy down, with their head turned to the side. This keeps their airway clear.
2. Always keep your baby’s face visible and never covered by the blanket.
3. Support your baby’s head and back with your hand or arm.
4. Stay alert and focused on your baby. If you feel sleepy, ask someone to help or move your baby to a safe sleep space.
5. If your baby was born by cesarean or if the mother is recovering, you can step in for extra skin-to-skin time.

Health experts recommend that parents, including dads, learn safe positioning and always monitor their baby during skin to skin. Hospitals in the UK often provide guidance before you go home, so don’t hesitate to ask questions.

Comfort and Security

Skin to skin contact does more than just feel nice. Studies show that it helps your baby stay warm, cry less, and feel safe. Your touch can steady your baby’s heartbeat and breathing. You might notice your baby relax or even fall asleep on your chest.

You benefit, too. Skin to skin helps you feel more confident as a parent. Many dads say it lowers their stress and helps them understand their baby’s needs. When dads bond through these close moments, it sets the stage for a strong relationship as your child grows.

Remember: Every cuddle counts. Even a few minutes of skin to skin each day can make a big difference for both you and your baby.

2. Talking

Everyday Conversations

It might feel strange at first, but talking to your newborn is important. Your baby likes your voice, even if they do not know the words. When you talk, you help your baby’s brain grow and build trust.

Try talking during diaper changes, bath time, or while dressing your baby. You can say what you are doing, name things, or just share your thoughts.

Here are some simple ways to talk with your baby:

• Answer your baby’s sounds and babbles. Wait for them to “talk” back.
• Tell your baby what you are doing. For example, “Now we put on your socks. They are blue!”
• Sing songs or nursery rhymes. Babies like the music and rhythm.
• Look at your baby and smile when you talk. This helps your baby feel safe and loved.
• Copy your baby’s noises. This makes them want to “talk” more.

Tip: You do not need big words. Your baby wants to hear your voice and see your face.

Baby’s Response

Your newborn cannot use words yet, but they are always listening and learning. Babies watch your mouth, look at your face, and try to copy your sounds. These small “talks” help your baby learn about language and feel close to you.

Studies show babies’ brains are ready to learn from birth. When you talk, read, or sing, you help your baby’s brain grow and learn new words. How you talk matters more than how many words you say. Babies learn best from real talks with you, not from TV or recordings.

Every time you talk, you help your baby feel safe and loved. These moments help your baby learn language, grow, and build a strong bond with you.

3. Singing

Calming Sounds

Singing to your newborn can work like magic. Your voice, even if you do not think you sing well, can calm your baby and help them feel safe.

Many dads notice their baby relax when they start to hum or sing a gentle tune. You might see your baby’s eyes get heavy or their breathing slow down. That is your voice working wonders.

Studies show that when fathers sing to their newborns, it can help steady the baby’s heart rate and breathing. In hospitals, especially in the NICU, dads who sing to their babies help them sleep better and feel less stressed. Singing does not just help your baby. It can also lower your own stress and make you feel more confident as a parent. You do not need to know lullabies or nursery rhymes. Any song, even one you make up, can help. Try singing softly when your baby is fussy or before naps. Over time, you will notice what songs your baby likes best.

Tip: If you feel nervous, start with humming. Your baby loves your voice, no matter what.

Building Connection

Singing is more than just a way to soothe your baby. It helps you build a strong emotional connection. When you sing, you share a special moment that goes beyond words. Your baby learns to trust you and feels close to you. Many dads say singing helps them feel more present and connected, even during tough times.

Research shows that singing is a natural way for dads to communicate with their newborns. It helps you tune in to your baby’s needs and feelings. Some dads find singing helps them handle their own worries and feel more at ease. Over time, these musical moments become memories you both will cherish. Singing can also help you create family traditions, like a favorite bedtime song or a silly morning tune.

• Try these ideas to make singing part of your day:
  • Sing during diaper changes or bath time.
  • Make up a song about what you are doing.
  • Use your baby’s name in a song.
  • Repeat the same song at bedtime to help your baby know it is time to sleep.

Singing helps you and your baby feel close, safe, and happy together.

4. Babywearing

Staying Close

Babywearing lets you keep your newborn close while you move through your day. When you use a carrier, your baby feels your warmth, hears your heartbeat, and smells your scent.

This closeness helps your baby feel safe and calm. You might notice your baby settles faster and cries less when you carry them this way.

Research shows that babywearing increases physical closeness, which supports your mental health and lowers stress. Many dads say they feel more involved and connected when they wear their baby. You get to know your baby’s cues and moods, which helps you respond quickly to their needs.

Tip: Try babywearing during walks, chores, or even while you relax. Your baby will love being part of your world.

Here are some benefits of babywearing for dads:

• Boosts oxytocin, the “bonding hormone,” for both you and your baby.
• Helps your baby feel secure and builds trust.
• Makes it easier to comfort your baby when they are fussy.
• Supports emotional regulation for both of you.

Hands Free Bonding

One of the best parts about babywearing is that it keeps your hands free. You can hold your baby and still get things done. This makes daily life easier, especially if you have other children or need to multitask.

There are many types of carriers that work well for dads:

• Structured carriers like the Ergobaby 360 offer sturdy support and a special newborn system.
• Woven wraps are soft and versatile, letting you adjust the fit for comfort.
• Slings keep your baby close and are easy to use for quick trips.
• Hybrid carriers such as the MOBY Cloud Ultra Light Hybrid Carrier are great for warm days and offer different carrying positions.
• Dad specific carriers focus on durability, comfort, and easy buckles.

Most carriers use soft, breathable fabrics and padded straps to keep you and your baby comfortable. Look for one that fits your body and feels secure. When you find the right carrier, you can bond with your baby while keeping your hands free for other tasks.

Babywearing is not just for moms. When you wear your baby, you show the world that dads bond, too.

5. Diaper Changes

Routine Moments

Diaper changes might seem like a chore, but they give you a special chance to connect with your baby. Every time you change a diaper, you get one on one time. You can use your touch and voice to comfort your newborn. These moments help you build trust and show your baby that you are there for them.

Many dads say that taking charge of diaper changes helped them feel more confident as parents. At first, you might feel awkward or unsure. That’s normal. Over time, you’ll get the hang of it.

You might even start to look forward to these quiet moments together. Some dads make up silly songs or talk about what they’re doing. This turns a simple task into a memory you both can share.

Try to keep everything you need close by. This helps you stay calm and focused on your baby.

Diaper changes are not just about keeping your baby clean. They are about building a strong bond. When you take part in these daily routines, you show your baby love and care. You also challenge old ideas about who should do what at home. Dads Bond in many ways, and diaper changes are one of them.

Positive Interactions

You can make diaper changes fun and positive for both you and your baby. Here are some easy ways to turn this routine into a bonding moment:

1. Use a gentle, soothing voice. Talk to your baby about what you’re doing.

2. Stay calm. Your baby will feel safe if you are relaxed.

3. Offer a small toy or a colorful object to distract your baby.

4. Smile and make eye contact. Babies love to see your face.

5. Laugh together. Even a quick giggle can make diaper time special.

These small actions help your baby feel loved and secure. Over time, you’ll find your own ways to make diaper changes a favorite part of your day.

6. Bath Time

Gentle Care

Bath time gives you a special chance to care for your newborn in a gentle way. You help your baby feel safe and loved when you handle them with care.

Before you start, gather everything you need—like a soft towel, mild soap, a clean diaper, and fresh clothes. This helps you keep one hand on your baby at all times.

• Wait until your baby’s umbilical cord stump falls off before giving a full bath. Use sponge baths at first.
• Always check the water temperature. Aim for about 98.6°F (37°C). You can use your elbow or a bath thermometer.
• Never leave your baby alone in the bath, not even for a second.
• Support your baby’s head and neck with one hand.
• Use gentle, fragrance free soap to protect your baby’s skin.
• After the bath, wrap your baby in a warm towel and dry all the skin folds.

Speak softly or sing to your baby during bath time. Your voice helps them feel calm and secure.

You can also use this time to look for any signs of skin irritation or rashes. If you notice anything unusual, talk to your healthcare provider.

Fun Together

Bath time is not just about getting clean. It is a playful and relaxing moment for both of you. Many dads say they enjoy bath time more than other tasks because it feels less rushed and more fun.

You can splash a little, make gentle bubbles, or play with a soft washcloth. Your baby will love watching your face and hearing your laughter.

• Use a small tub or bath support to keep your baby safe.
• Limit baths to 2-3 times a week to avoid dry skin.
• Try a gentle massage after the bath with fragrance free lotion warmed in your hands.
• Make bath time part of your bedtime routine. This helps your baby know it is time to wind down.

Bath time creates happy memories and helps you build a strong bond with your baby. These moments of care and play support your baby’s sense of trust and comfort.

7. Reading

Simple Stories

You might wonder if reading to a newborn makes a difference. It does! Even tiny babies love the sound of your voice. When you read simple stories, you help your baby feel safe and connected. You do not need to pick long books or complicated tales.

Babies enjoy books with big pictures, bright colors, and simple words. Picture books, books with rhymes, or even books in your home language all work well.

Try holding your baby close while you read. Let them look at the pictures and hear your voice. This creates a cozy moment for both of you.

Experts say that the act of reading matters more than the book itself. Books with pictures and questions help you interact with your baby.

You can point to animals, make funny sounds, or ask, “What do you see?” These small actions turn reading into a fun game.

Here are some book ideas to get you started:

• Soft cloth books or board books
• Books with faces or high contrast images
• Stories with simple, repetitive words

Early Learning

Reading with your newborn does more than pass the time. It helps your baby’s brain grow. Studies show that when dads read to their babies, it boosts language skills and early learning. Babies who hear stories from their fathers often score higher on language and vocabulary tests as toddlers. Your calm, gentle voice during story time helps your baby focus and learn.

Fathers play a special role in helping babies manage emotions and develop self control. When you read together, you model how to handle feelings and create a loving space for your baby to explore new ideas. Interactive reading—like asking questions or letting your baby touch the pages—helps your child learn to pay attention and solve problems.

You do not need to be perfect. Just enjoy the moment. Every story you share helps your baby grow and strengthens your bond.

8. Massage

Gentle Touch

Infant massage is a nice way to bond with your baby. Your gentle hands help your newborn feel safe and loved. First, make sure the room is warm and quiet. Put a soft towel on the floor. Lay your baby on their back so you can see each other. Use a little baby safe oil, like plain vegetable oil. Always test a small spot on your baby’s skin first.

Here’s an easy routine you can follow:

1. Start with your baby’s legs and feet. Gently stroke from thigh to ankle. Roll each toe and rub the soles.
2. Next, move to the tummy. Use your palms to make soft, downward strokes. Make small circles going clockwise.
3. Massage the chest with smooth strokes. Use gentle criss cross moves on the shoulders.
4. For arms and hands, stroke from shoulder to wrist. Roll each finger and rub the palms.
5. On the face, use soft strokes over the forehead, cheeks, and jaw.
6. Turn your baby onto their tummy. Gently massage along the spine with small circles. Do not press right on the spine.

Tip: Watch how your baby reacts. If they seem upset or fussy, stop and try again later.

Relaxation

Massage does more than help your baby relax. It gives real health benefits for both of you. Babies who get massages often sleep better and cry less. Massage can help with colic and digestion. Some studies show that premature babies who get massage gain weight faster and leave the hospital sooner.

You also get good things from these quiet times. Massaging your baby can make you feel more confident as a parent. You may feel closer and proud of your care. Many dads say massage helps them feel less stressed and more involved, even when things are hard.

Massage can become a favorite part of your day. It is a simple way to help your baby grow and enjoy special time together.

9. Play

Tummy Time

Tummy time is one of the best ways to help your baby grow strong. You lay your baby on their tummy while they are awake and watch them explore. This simple activity helps your baby build neck and shoulder muscles. It also gets them ready for rolling, crawling, and sitting up later on.

When you join your baby during tummy time, you make it more fun and safe. Lie down next to your baby or get on the floor face to face. Smile, talk, or sing to keep your baby interested. Some dads like to use toys or a soft mirror to catch their baby’s attention. Your presence gives your baby a sense of security and makes tummy time something to look forward to.

Start with just a few minutes at a time, a couple of times each day. As your baby gets stronger, you can add more time.

Research shows that dads often bring a playful energy to tummy time. You might find yourself gently lifting, tickling, or making silly faces. These actions not only help your baby’s body but also boost their confidence and trust in you. Playful tummy time with you supports both physical growth and emotional bonding.

Eye Contact

Making eye contact with your newborn is a powerful way to connect. When you look into your baby’s eyes, you help them learn to recognize your face and voice. Babies love to study faces, and your gaze helps them feel safe and loved.

Try these easy ways to use eye contact during play:

• Hold your baby close and look into their eyes while talking or singing.
• Copy your baby’s facial expressions or sounds.
• Play simple games like peek a boo to make your baby smile.

Regular eye contact supports your baby’s brain growth and language skills. It also helps your baby learn about emotions and trust. These small moments of looking and smiling together build a strong bond that lasts.

10. Dads Bond Daily

Special Routines

Daily rituals help you and your baby feel close. Simple routines like morning cuddles, bedtime stories, or a gentle massage after a bath can become your special moments. These small acts show your baby love and care. You do not need to plan anything fancy. Just repeating the same loving actions each day helps your baby know what to expect and feel safe.

• Morning cuddles set a warm tone for the day.
• Rocking your baby before naps helps them relax.
• A bedtime routine with a story or song signals it is time to sleep.
• Gentle massage after a bath soothes your baby and helps them wind down.

When you hold, cuddle, or sing to your baby, you give them comfort and security. These routines build trust and help your baby learn that you are always there.

Physical closeness during these rituals, like skin to skin contact or massage, boosts your baby’s mood and helps them manage stress. You also benefit. These moments can lower your stress and make you feel more connected. Dads Bond through these daily habits, and each one supports your baby’s healthy growth.

Lasting Memories

Consistent involvement shapes your baby’s emotional security. When you spend time with your newborn every day, you help them feel safe and loved. Children with involved dads often have higher self esteem and better ways to handle stress. Even if you feel unsure, showing up each day matters more than being perfect.

Dads Bond best when they create memories through simple, repeated actions. Your baby will remember the feeling of your arms, your voice, and your gentle care. Over time, these moments become the foundation for a strong relationship. You help your child grow into a confident and happy person.

Every day brings a new chance to bond. The more you show up, the stronger your connection will be.

Bonding with your newborn is a journey, not a race. Many dads feel unsure or worry about doing things right. You might notice the connection grows slowly, and that’s okay.

• Stay patient and kind to yourself.
• Reach out for support from parenting groups or classes if you need help.
• Remember, Dads Bond through small, daily moments.
  Strong early bonds help your child build confidence, handle stress, and create happy memories that last a lifetime.

FAQ

How soon can you start bonding with your newborn?

You can start bonding right away. Skin to skin contact, talking, and holding your baby help from day one. Every small moment counts, even if you feel unsure at first.

What if you don’t feel a strong bond right away?

Don’t worry. Many dads need time to feel close. Keep spending time with your baby. Try different activities. The bond will grow with patience and daily care.

Can dads bond if the baby is breastfed?

Absolutely! You can cuddle, do skin to skin, change diapers, and sing. Your baby loves your voice and touch. These moments help you build a strong connection, even if you’re not feeding.

What are some quick bonding activities for busy dads?

• Morning cuddles
• Singing during diaper changes
• Reading a short story
• Gentle massage after bath

Even a few minutes each day makes a difference.

How do you know if your baby feels bonded to you?

Look for signs like your baby calming in your arms, making eye contact, or smiling at you. These small reactions show trust and comfort. Your presence matters most.